Last week I talked about values and what they are. Today I want to talk about how you can discover some of your values. If I were to coach you, I would probably start by asking you: what were some really impacting experiences in your life? They could be either positive or negative but very memorable.
For example, I coached someone who was very unhappy in his job Instead of focusing on the tasks, we focused on how he felt when at work and why. He came to the realization that he really did enjoy what he did but didn't like the office politics. This young man is a straight shooter and found it exhausting trying to play the games. His value here that was being compromised was integrity. He valued it very highly in himself and in others. He often felt like he couldn't be totally honest and had to hold back.
So try and think of some experiences in your life - they can be past or present, good or bad. And ask yourself what in that experience was impacting and why. You will start to dig out your own values. Just as a little aside here: we are all different and so we will all have different values. Don't feel like you have to have values that you think others want you to have. Let's dig down deep and find out who you really are and what you value. That's what makes you wonderful and unique.
Next Monday there will be no blog. I will be in Mexico soaking up the sun. So until next time, value who you are!