A blessed Monday morning to you! I hope you are all doing wonderfully on this fresh, new Monday morning.
So mistakes is my title - what's up with that? Well I was thinking about this subject when I first woke up. We all make mistakes but how do we respond to them? Of course, if it's involving others, we are usually quick to apologize and that is only right. What about the internal dialogue going on inside our heads? That is not always as civil.
For example, I often hear people berating themselves audibly. Things like "I'm such an idiot!" or "I can't believe I did that again!" are not at all uncommon. If this is what we can hear, what can't we hear? Possibly inside the head and unheard is "you're never going to get this - you're always messing up! " or "what's wrong with you - you're never going to learn" - and probably much worse. We can be so hard on ourselves.
My suggestion: let's take some time to focus on how we speak to ourselves internally. The next time you make a mistake, check yourself. How about phrases like "oops! Well, try again, you are smart and you will get this!". Just this small reframe and you will get more confident and guess what? You will get it. The power of positive thinking is most amazing. There's a verse in the Bible that says "as a man thinks in his heart, so he is". It's all about what's going on inside. Let's guard ourselves against that internal meanness towards ourselves. Start to practise self-kindness and it will change your life!
So mistakes is my title - what's up with that? Well I was thinking about this subject when I first woke up. We all make mistakes but how do we respond to them? Of course, if it's involving others, we are usually quick to apologize and that is only right. What about the internal dialogue going on inside our heads? That is not always as civil.
For example, I often hear people berating themselves audibly. Things like "I'm such an idiot!" or "I can't believe I did that again!" are not at all uncommon. If this is what we can hear, what can't we hear? Possibly inside the head and unheard is "you're never going to get this - you're always messing up! " or "what's wrong with you - you're never going to learn" - and probably much worse. We can be so hard on ourselves.
My suggestion: let's take some time to focus on how we speak to ourselves internally. The next time you make a mistake, check yourself. How about phrases like "oops! Well, try again, you are smart and you will get this!". Just this small reframe and you will get more confident and guess what? You will get it. The power of positive thinking is most amazing. There's a verse in the Bible that says "as a man thinks in his heart, so he is". It's all about what's going on inside. Let's guard ourselves against that internal meanness towards ourselves. Start to practise self-kindness and it will change your life!
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