The question I have for you today is: are you a bellhop? What is a bellhop? In the very fine hotels, there are people who will carry your luggage for you. In the past, the person behind the counter would ring the bell and yes, the bellhops would indeed "hop" to it.
So, why would I ask you, my dear Blog readers, if you are one such person? Well, perhaps not as a profession but how about in life? Some of us have a lot of our own baggage to carry and yet we choose to carry other's baggage as well. Why is this?
I think sometimes it is hard to set healthy boundaries. It is natural that when someone is hurting or having a hard time dealing with something that we want to make it better. That's not a bad thing - it means we care. However, when we start to carry someone else's stuff, a few things happen. First of all, they become reliant on us and because we are not meant to carry someone else's baggage along with our own, we will burnout. Second of all, when we try to carry someone else's contents that they have accumulated over their life time, it makes them weak because they don't have to carry it. And thirdly, we are not respecting them as an adult when we don't allow them to carry their own pack because what we are saying, in essence, is we don't believe that they can handle it.
It's important to care about each other but let's also remember that sometimes loving someone means letting them find their own way. The best way to be a true friend is to allow the other person to carry their own baggage on their journey and to walk beside them.
So, why would I ask you, my dear Blog readers, if you are one such person? Well, perhaps not as a profession but how about in life? Some of us have a lot of our own baggage to carry and yet we choose to carry other's baggage as well. Why is this?
I think sometimes it is hard to set healthy boundaries. It is natural that when someone is hurting or having a hard time dealing with something that we want to make it better. That's not a bad thing - it means we care. However, when we start to carry someone else's stuff, a few things happen. First of all, they become reliant on us and because we are not meant to carry someone else's baggage along with our own, we will burnout. Second of all, when we try to carry someone else's contents that they have accumulated over their life time, it makes them weak because they don't have to carry it. And thirdly, we are not respecting them as an adult when we don't allow them to carry their own pack because what we are saying, in essence, is we don't believe that they can handle it.
It's important to care about each other but let's also remember that sometimes loving someone means letting them find their own way. The best way to be a true friend is to allow the other person to carry their own baggage on their journey and to walk beside them.
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